Tips for Planning a Small Wedding

A small wedding can be far more intimate than a large wedding, and planning a small wedding is well within the reach of most people. At a small wedding, you will have more time to spend with your friends and family, and it will most likely be far less stressful. You will be able to concentrate on the details and make sure everyone has an enjoyable time.

When planning a small wedding for a few close friends and family members, you will be able to be more flexible with some of the details than you would otherwise. For example, where food is concerned you’ll have a lot more leeway. Depending on what your budget will allow, you can have hors d’oeuvres, a full buffet, or go all out with a catered event. If your wedding party is small enough, you can even reserve a room at a nice restaurant.

Planning a small wedding should not break the budget, and you can spend the money where it really matters. While no one will remember what they ate or drank, the photos and videos from the event will last forever. Your wedding should be a one-time affair, and you’ll want to capture photos of you in your wedding gown, and you’ll want them to be of the highest quality. You definitely don’t want to skimp on the photos and videos.

You will be able to involve your guests for when planning a small wedding. At one wedding, the couple had each guest sign their name and write their sentiments on the tablecloth. Through the next several years, the wife took those sentiments and embroidered them onto the tablecloth. Today, that is a cherished heirloom that will get passed down through the generations.

Smaller, more intimate weddings generally seem more personal than the large social gatherings some couples choose. When you are planning a small wedding, you have a lot more options on where to hold the event. You can have it in your home or another home, you could have a garden wedding, or you could rent a gazebo and have the wedding guests gather around it has you exchange vows.

Whether you decide to plan a small wedding or a large wedding, the size of the wedding is not necessarily tied to the size of the budget. Many couples have large weddings on a small budget, and you can definitely have a small wedding on a large budget. If you are planning a small wedding though, you should be better able to get the groom involved with the planning. Large weddings can be intimidating to the groom, as they see a lot of people involved. Planning a small wedding gives you both an opportunity to exchange ideas before you exchange your vows.

Small And Less Expensive Wedding Plans

Small and less expensive wedding plans.

Is a large wedding with all the elaborate trimmings a bit much for you? Is this your second time around, and a big bash wedding just isn’t what you’re looking for? Then here are some ideas for you.

Wedding Attire- Try going for the casual wear theme. It still looks nice, but without all the extra trimmings.

The Wedding Gown- If a wedding gown is too expensive, or just a little more than you need, a second hand gown works just as well; especially for the fact that it is only going to be worn once and then tucked away in a box or closet.

The Wedding Tux- Leave off the frills, the cumber bun and tails, and go for the more leisure type suit. Slacks, jacket or vest, dress shirt, bow tie and nice shoes.

We all know a church wedding is good, but when you combine it with renting a hall for the reception, it can be quite high in price. More so if it’s catered. Go for the back yard wedding and have a Bar-B-Q for the reception.

For the Wedding Ceremony- An iron or wooden arch purchased from a garden center is decorative and works very well. No time for growing climbing roses? Silk roses and other flowers on plastic vines work just as good. Ten to one, the guests won’t even know unless you tell them. You can even give them a fragrance by spraying them with air freshener.

As for organ music, try finding someone who can play a keyboard. You can get many wonderful sounds from a keyboard, and it’s safe to take them outdoors.

Bar-B-Q Reception- Borrow chairs and tables from a local bingo hall or church. Ask the guests to all bring a covered dish. There are several dishes that are wonderful at a Bar-B-Q. There’s cold meat and cheese platters, grilled burgers, hotdogs, and chicken, steamed clams, salads, shish kebabs, and assorted veggies. You can even add in appetizers.

Wine or Champaign- Use plastic stemware.

Dishes and utensils- Heavy-duty plastic ware is great and even comes in many styles and colors to choose from.

Wedding Favors- Instead of having specially made or purchased place favors for your guests, make your own. It’s really not hard to do and the expense is much cheaper too. You can purchase the netting, twisting wire, ribbon, and little frills such as flowers or plastic rings at any store that carry’s craft supplies.

Filler- While we’re on the subject, how many people do you actually know, that really eats those candy coated almonds? Try substituting them for something else. Mini peppermint patties are a good choice. Even candy sticks are great. They come in a variety of flavors, all individually wrapped, and your guests can swap them with the person sitting next to them if they don’t like that particular flavor. There is also those little after dinner mints and chocolate kisses that work well, and even certain trail mixes would do the trick.

The entire theme can be very simple and easy to put together. Think of it as a big get together in your back yard. There are endless possibilities.

The Easiest Way to Get Free Wedding Planning

So you are all excited at the start of planning your wedding day but you do not want to spend a ridiculous amount of money on a professional wedding planner. You are going to have to pay for certain things anyway and it can be a waste to have a middle person doing all the coordinating for you. They will charge you handsomely for their services.

Of course if you have no time and very few contacts it might actually be better if you did use a professional but that is up to you. I will assume that you have decided to do your own wedding planning. That decision made there is no shortage of excellent resources for you to use to help you plan your special day
You cannot do the food or the honeymoon for free but you can with a bit of skill and guile do your wedding planning for free. Here are a few ways to do this.

Using the internet to do your free wedding planning

The internet is becoming freer by the year and there are lots of free guides and e-books on wedding planning that you can download. There are also checklists and spreadsheets for you to follow to ensure nothing is missed out. To find these websites type in a phrase such as wedding plan or plan your wedding and you will get plenty of help.

Friends can help you plan your wedding but choose them well

Its time to call in a few favors and use your friends to help you plan the wedding. Make sure they are reliable and not prone to stupid ideas. It is not their wedding, it is yours and they need to remember that. When we planned our wedding (30 years ago) I chose my best friend to help. Now he is a born organizer and administrator so we had a fantastic day and the planning and delivery of our special day was second to none. No surprise I made him best man on the day.

Between us we gathered a small team who came up with how we wanted our day to be. We added things in and removed other bad ideas over 3 or 4 meetings in our home. All the implementation was shared out and we had a fantastic day. This cost us nothing other than a bit of time and some careful choosing of the right friends. If you have good friends they will want to help for free.

Use other people weddings as an idea resource for yours

Some weddings are memorable and others are downright dreadful. There is nothing remotely funny about a drunken groom on his wedding day. Think back to the weddings you have been to and try to define what it was that you liked about it. Was it the music, the greeters, the cars, the speeches? Copy ideas from other people. If you are worried they will think you copied the idea tell them what you plan to do. They will take it as a compliment that you are doing the same thing.

Use your own ideas carefully

Your wedding needs to be your own day with its own character. This is a great bonus for doing your own wedding planning. You can put in touches that no one else has thought of. But this can be a problem. Just because you think it is a nice romantic idea it doesn’t mean it is a good idea. Horse drawn carriages are great but have you smelt the XXXX that comes out of the horses? Mixing the families might be right or could be disastrous. To overcome potential problems run the ideas past your small wedding planning team and listen. In the end your vote over rides all the others but other peoples input could stop a disaster.